More from "Trust" by Iyanla Vanzant.
"When you don't trust yourself, you become a victim of circumstances and time. You will miss the learning for mental, emotional, and spiritual growth and the details of your personal and unique healing process. Without self-trust you will underutilize your personal power to make choices and facilitate change. When you don't trust yourself, life will become a treadmill of problems, difficulties, and challenges that you don't understand, fail to recognize, and become exhausted trying to manage or avoid. When you don't trust yourself, you will deny, diminish or dismiss your own voice. This makes it highly unlikely that others will hear you when you try to speak up for yourself. When you don't trust yourself, you will become your own worst enemy, fighting against yourself and blaming everyone else for your perceived lack of power, choice and capacity to create or re-create your own reality."
"When you don't trust yourself, you are prone to giving too much, accepting way less than you desire or deserve, and repeating that experience over and over until the lack of trust becomes the loss of disrespect. When you don't trust yourself, you issue an energetic invitation for others to walk over you, to run amuck in your life, and actually to do to you the very thing you are unwilling to admit that you're doing to yourself." Iyanla
I love this, because we often speak of loving ourselves and wonder just how do we do that.
How about trust?
Do you trust yourself?
And, if you don't trust yourself, who or what do you trust?
It almost is more clear in how to trust yourself when she speaks of NOT trusting yourself.
Here is another small piece I highlighted.
"There is, however, a caveat when it comes to trusting others. You must make a distinction between an unwillingness to trust and the wisdom NOT to trust under certain circumstances. You must also make a distinction between not trusting people without a reason and not trusting people because they have demonstrated that they are untrustworthy." Iyanla
Bring your awareness, and experience, and believe it. Don't let others define what you already know.
There is a huge cost when we don't trust ourselves.
The cost is being you.
Trust that what you feel is real.
Your body never lies.
Trust that your life will respond to your authentic nature.
We have been taught to appease others while disappointing ourselves...and that is kindness.
It is not.
There cannot be self-love without first trusting You.
It is in all the small ways we have been schooled on being nice.
What they really were teaching was to disregard yourself in order to keep outward peace.
It is time to make peace inside!