"Unless you can fully accept what is, joy is impossible." From the "Book of Joy" by Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama
It was so fun to listen to "The Book of Joy" and hear their delight and playfulness, even when both have experienced the opposite.
I think we often believe that a 'good' life is one where we don't bring in negativity, where we are not sad or sorrowed by life. When in actuality, the best life is one where we are free to feel it all.
Another phrase I heard on a podcast relating to joy was about controlling life.
You simply can't experience joy IF you think you are in control.
Joy is more often around me, now that I have completely lost control.
We all know what we control and what is out of our reach and yet we continue to fight with what is.
Whether it be the weather or someone else's behavior. Our minds act like we can make a difference. We can't.
This isn't a talent that I created. My life spiraled out of control so fast, that my mind couldn't find a way to stop the spinning and I landed dumbfounded in reality.
The mess was bigger than I could control. Which gave me nothing to do but accept.
Which was hard.
What controlling feels like in my body is stress, hard, heavy, depressing, anxiety, joy killing.
I don't tap into that place very often anymore.
My body doesn't like it.
Now, that it has had the taste for freedom, it doesn't like the burden of control.
I have let so many relationships go, due to my desire to control them.
I let them have their way with me.
If someone asks for space, Space it is.
I LOVE that they are in control of their lives.
We all are.
What most don't realize is what is in their power to control and what needs you to let go of.
Once you learn this, you will automatically find joy.
It is scary and extremely liberating and mysterious and curious.
You can't know what will happen; but you are open to all possibilities; for you have not tried to control how it will go.
Life has much more joy than it has sorrow.
And, when my body feels sorrow, I am joyful it can.