My mind has been spinning with the Ruling on Friday, that everyone is talking about. How the Gays now have the same rights as the rest of us folks.
What took awhile to bubble up to the surface is this isn't about the Gays at all.
Anti-Gay laws weren't created by the Gay people.
Gays were not acting in a manner that justified their treatment.
They literally are doing what comes natural in love....for them.
Their love looks different than other love.
But, it is love.
Isn't it insane that at one time, like a week ago, there was a law that defined love?
And, even more insane, was that at one time, I too agreed with this law.
The strict religion I was raised in had a narrow view on love.
Love was restricted to a man and a woman.
The religion felt they owned love...and if you didn't love like they loved, you were not equal; but less.
What I have also thought of during these past few days is that there is no way that loving Gay people can be a threat.
A threat to what?
In my relationship with my husband, having loving Gay people marry will not lessen what we have. I do not feel threatened or less because of the ruling.
In fact, oddly, I feel more ashamed.
Ashamed that I am part of the percentage of the population who have allowed them to be second class citizens. I am part of the 'regular' love folks who have waltz on our merry way to marry.
Not only to marry but to have the rights to our partners health care and to be able to be there for medical emergencies....etc
I took for granted the rights they were denied...with their loving life partners.
I was part of the populations that denied them the rights.
Like it didn't matter...that much, cause it didn't affect me. It was just the way it was.
I accepted where I was....as much as where they couldn't go. Without thought or question...it just was. And, without too much consideration on how it was to be them.
Mostly, in the debate, how often can you sit in the other chair?
Do you see what their side feels like?
When you are on the side that is oppressing...do you feel those who are oppressed?
I knew of their inequality, but I didn't feel I was part of their oppression, yet I was.
I was raised to see them differently.
What also came to me is that my narrow mind is now wide open.
I had liberated the Gays long before the ruling. They were not as I was taught, but rather they were just like me. Equal human beings...who loved.
How many of the conservative christian people have been taught like me....to see them as different. NOT that they are different.
That is the difference.
We are taught to see wrongly and then call them wrong.
Love was never in the context of Gays when I was young. It was as if their very nature was wrong, not even that they loved differently, but they were just wrongly put together.
Here is what I do believe is threatened and rightly so...(or its about time).
What is threatened is the lucidity of wrong thinking.
This wrong thinking has got to be exposed for what it is.
The narrow minded closed thinkers uncomfortable with differences people will feel the odd looks now.
For they will become the minority of folks who believe that love can only be between a man and woman....and only they are entitled to benefits by their love union.
Perhaps the difference will now be between those who see love and not the gender of the lovers.
I know this will not come easy to folks who, like me have been taught to see them differently. But, it is up to us...for it was us who made them different.
We have to be uncomfortable with different...until we expand and feel the space for all to enter in...in love.
What I want to impress upon those who have been labeled different. You didn't attach the label, we did.
You are and have always been you.
We made you different...not you.
You naturally love how you love.
We have un-naturally created a world that rejects you.
For this, I am sorry.
I am sorry for agreeing to see you differently...and for not seeing love.
It is my hope, that IF my narrow minded thinking can widen....so too can the world.
I am proof it can be done.
Love wins...over different!
I can see there may be a series...."Love Wins!"