The faint lines between your business and mine oftentimes blur when it contains the life of you my child, when you bring into my life energies that affect me.
It is crucial to separate and to focus on what is my business and at the same time hand back to you yours.
While I can’t change your behaviors and don’t want them to change for me, I do want to maintain the integrity of our relationship.
There has been a breach and I feel it is only right for me to state how it makes me feel.
It isn’t up to me to change you, but I feel it is only right to state how it will affect the you and me.
The relationship we had previous didn’t have lies, it didn’t have secrets, it had integrity and character, and I am unsure what this will mean to us in the long run to have this vein running through us, it seems to weaken the us.
Inside of our relationship you have brought changes that will define our future, changes that I accept or decline.
What happens if I accept that lying is an okay part of our relationship?
What happens if secrets are okay?
Who then do we become?
Are we not just playacting a good relationship?
Not only is the relationship with self in jeopardy but each relationship you have, for in every relationship you bring you.
If you treat your self less, we all feel the less of who you are in our relationship.
The light goes out, the feelings are dim, and we feel that.
To me the second part of any relationship is to say what you need to say, to speak how the actions are affecting you, letting the other know how you feel.
The relationship dance is twofold; no one gets to have more power.
Each of us owns a set of feelings and a voice, it is up to us to express and share.
My business is to share my feelings or hide them, to speak up or sit silently, to show her how my feelings are changing.
She changes and I change.
We are separated but move in the dance of life together as long as we have a relationship.
We relate to each other.
When you do lie I feel lied to.
When you do something loving, I feel love.
We are readers of each other, what you give to me I take in its full integrity, I no longer change it, but accept it as it is given.
Your actions come across to me clearly, I read you like a book, there is no mistaking their meanings, what you are doing is speaking to me loud and clear, I am just echoing back how it feels to be on the receiving end.
That is my business.
I tell you how I feel.
Your lies to me are lies about your self.
You are trying not to show me who you are.
I see behind the lies, I watch the actions; the wordy lies fall empty at my feet.
Our relationship is only as good as the two people in it.
You bring you and I bring me.
We dance as one from there.
You step and I counter step, you speak and I answer...