“There are three kinds of business in this world, Yours, Mine and God’s. If I am in your business, it leaves no one is in mine…” Byron Kate.
When you have children it seems that our business is their business at least until they are capable of doing it for themselves and actually that is the greatest sense of freedom we will get when we can see our children flying well in their own business; their lives.
When they fly way off course it seems that we do have to leave our lives to help them navigate back and at the same time be present in our lives.
My fear and challenge is to return to my life and allow them to make corrections needed to get theirs back on track.
And the most important thing to learn is not what knocked you off course, but also how to get your wheels spinning in the right direction again, and the only way to do this is to do this.
To do the walking, to make the changes, to gather your life back.
I just didn’t think that we both had to do our parts and return to our separated worlds, somehow I got stuck in my child’s life and my meddling there was actually slowing down the progress of healing.
I am grateful that she told me what it felt like to have me crowding her world.
I am also grateful I could hear that and can rejoin my life that has been somewhat neglected. Okay pretty neglected.
What a gift to return to my business, to relax and give her back business.
There is finesse to this mothering thing, to help but not takeover, like a hostile takeover I bet it feels similar to.
Where at a weakened point another entity comes in takes over.
I don’t want to be a corporate raider, but a loving mom and when I overstay or overstep my bounds, it is like taking over a company, or my daughter’s world. I have the image now, and I can see that I was lurking on the sidelines waiting to snap it up, instead of giving her space to shore up the weak spots.
I love that I know this now.
I love that I am not in the business of taking over other people’s business, I love that I can be very content with one business, mine.
I guess the best mother is there for consulting services and will be asked when needed…until then, she carries on in her world, doing what she loves to do, growing where she needs to grow, learning how to navigate into being a mom in the ever changing landscape of our children’s lives.
We must remember to keep the woman in the mother healthy, happy and fully engrossed in her life.