“Dumbledore says people find it far easier to forgive others for being wrong than being right.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince
Now, isn't that a curious observation...and it feels correct to me...how we forgive folks for being wrong or doing wrong, but we don't forgive them when they are right.
Right in saying the truth...or standing up for doing what is right.
I feel that I am not forgiven for what I have done right...but that others are quickly forgiven for what they have done wrong.
There definitely is a double standard...
And, another thought that came to me about the act of forgiveness is that there are many meanings or definitions it seems; but is there one right one?
How can it be that when we speak of forgiveness we hear such a variety of ways in which people forgive and mostly how it is done for themselves...it has nothing to do with the other they say....but yet, the other IS who they are forgiving.
So, what is the real value or worth of forgiveness?
And, is it wrong not to forgive...are there indeed folks we should not forgive or is there no such thing. Rather, are there folks who are unforgiving?
Are there reasons for being unforgiving...or must we always forgive, no matter what?
I looked up the meaning of "Unforgiving"....and here is what I found.
"not willing to forgive or excuse people's faults or wrongdoings."
This doesn't seem wrong to me....to no longer excuse a person's fault or wrongdoing.
Is the act of unforgiving the fault of the person who is no longer willing to excuse OR is it the fault of the wrongdoer, who continues to do wrong?
Are there not limits when enough is enough, when it is seen as insane to forgive repeat wrong behavior...
Who sets the limits or is forgiveness and unlimited endless supply?
MOST often, after forgiveness folks return to their old relationship, seldom is there a grudge if you will, but the forgiveness returns things back to how it was, "Before the wrongdoing."
Isn't it interesting that the one who is wronged is the one who is held wrongly IF they don't forgive. And seldom, in my experiences is there ever any focus on the one who was doing wrong.
Also, there seems to be a sentiment, that IF you don't forgive you are a hater.
Like you no longer 'like' the person who wronged you. Like that isn't a reason to end the relationship, just due to some wrongdoing.
I even had to look up "Wrongdoing".
"illegal or dishonest behavior."
So, this boils down to a person who is unforgiving, is unwilling to excuse illegal or dishonest behavior. Really? And, how is that wrong???
I am an unforgiving person...
(Oh yeah, it is easier to forgive a wrongdoer than some one who is right.)