There are well meaning phrases we take for granted and do not pause to think about their unintended burden.
"What a Joy, she has brought to your life...." is one.
The bringer of Joy, can have negative consequences on so many levels...for the "one who brings Joy".
Of course I am speaking of my delightful happy granddaughter, and the energy she innately spills forth, just being her.
She is Joy personified.
But so are we all.
Maybe a better phrase is "She has brought MORE joy"... to an already joyful bunch of humans.
I would hate to assign her the task of making me happy, or happier, or anything.
I am responsible for my state of being; always.
She will learn, that she too is in charge of hers.
I am deeply sensitive to the idea of codependent feelings. Of being the bringer of peace, of love and of joy. I was schooled to believe that it was my job to keep others in a positive state of being. And, it was a huge burden to bear.
I want my legacy to be one where we are all independent and the keeper of our own peace, love, and joy.
That we learn to say yes to the things that fulfill us and no to the things that don't.
I want my granddaughter to always have the freedom to be and do exactly as she feels is her soul's delight.
I LOVE that she delights in Me, and Much as I delight in her.
We are crazy for each other....
We are two people in joy meeting!
While I know most are not intending anything malice or hurtful when the simply state, "What joy she brings to your life..." I am aware of the underlying agenda the old consciousness meant by this.
In the old system, we were not independent... but codependent, and relied on each other to hold our emotions.
I am not sure how this started but I do know the consequences of being somebody's joy. They then own you and your voice and your choice. For you are then, never allowed to do anything that will take "JOY" from their worlds.
You will lose your life to be their joy.
When I broke away from the codependent lifestyle, it upset many who I used to cater to.
I would love for my granddaughter to never know what codependent feels like. She will at least get that from me. I want for her, what again, delights her soul! Just as I want for me and everyone, what delights ours.
If each of us become joy, love and peace personified....our planet will be joy full!