"Fear is a stranger to the ways of love. Identify with fear, and you will be a stranger to yourself. And thus you are unknown to you. What is your Self remains an alien to the part of you which thinks that it is real, but different from yourself. Who could be sane in such circumstance? Who but a madman could believe he is what he is not, and judge against himself." ACIM
I am not sure I can properly articulate how fear steps in and becomes who you are...
I am also just as sure that I became myself by doing what Fear 'suggested' I never do.
If you allow fear to stand between you and what you want to do, you become only what fear stops you from being.
I lived most of my life under what fear imposed; never daring to disappoint fear.
While I catered to the whims, needs and desires of fear, I never entertained love.
Love was a stranger to me, while I knew fear intimately.
I knew what it wanted me to do....clearly!
When I dared disappoint fear...or when I was forced to step over fear, it was then I felt the stirrings of love.
When I was fully on display with all my wounds showing...fear was no where to be found. It didn't protect me or hold me.
You may feel that fear protects you from harm.
It does not.
Fear prevents you from seeing your strength and courage.
It stands between you and you knowing you.
Between realizing and recognizing your true inner beauty.
Many of the things you 'fear' to do, reduces you to be an imitation of who you are.
Who would you be if you didn't see/feel or know fear?
What would you do if you were not afraid?
All I know, is that fear substituted itself for me.
I was too afraid to be myself.
To speak my truth.
Or, God forbid, be my truth.
When life was fully exposed and there was nothing more to FEAR, I was set free. When the worst that could happen, happened...I lost fear and saw everything beyond it.
Hard to explain, but so profound to experience.
I am now determined to be me, fear less. That I will never allow fear to stand in my way...to be a substitute for me.
Fear will hold you back from saying or doing what you know is your truth.
Fear then takes over your life...standing in your place. In order to really be you, you have to shove fear aside and do what you know is right for you. Say what you need to say, even if fear shakes your legs and weakens your voice. Rise above the fear...or at least wade through it.
The only thing that fear has no power over...is when you do what fear thinks is impossible. Do the opposite of what fear says!
Isn't there a saying that we can only live one of two ways...in Fear or in Love.
It is to follow your inner truths and to live them...then fear fades away.