"Loyalty isn't a virtue, neither is patience" is what a wise friend wrote to me.
At the same time, I was told of a woman leaving her abusive husband. I then wondered, what would a great care package consist of, for a woman who is making a huge life change?
As the thoughts rolled around it came to me, it would be a Welcome to being a Badass!
This is what it takes to exit abuse.
You will be leaving loyalty to family, church and state.
You will be no longer interested in having patience to wait for someone to rescue you, love you, honor you, respect you. You know, that you have been the one you were waiting for!
You will have to be your own badass!
Sadly, most who strive to leave abuse will have battle their families while doing so.
It will be multi-layered assaults and or indifference...as you struggle to free yourself from harm.
So, what would a badass package hold?
What would inspire hope of a better horizon ahead?
To me, it would be knowing there is a sisterhood of women whose steps you are following, and their joy, love and peace they now reside in.
I was sent a packet of flyers about abuse when my father was in court.
What I would have desperately wanted were signposts of hope.
Visions of what life had to offer on the other side.
Perhaps the pitfalls to avoid.
Items for self-love.
I will ask the women of WIND, to see if we can make up totes that would give hope to women changing direction in their lives.
A Badass Welcome!
I had to look up the word Badassery as defined by Brene Brown.
"Badassery : when people stand fully in their truth, or when someone falls down, gets back up and says, "Damn, That really hurt, but this is important to me and I'm going in again' - that's a badass."
I want to start a Badass Club; where Badassery is a lifestyle!