There seems to be just two ways to live your life, either pretending or tending. Tending to the truth of what is, or pretending it doesn’t exits! Tending or pretending sounds simple, except when the truth is hurtful to you or to those you love.
Tending the truth, means having to say no when you want to say yes, it means facing realities and not pretending that they don’t exist.
Pretending is pretty much what we teach our children every time we tell them a little white lie, every time we hide the truth to spare their feelings, each and every time the truth is not faced and acted upon we pretend.
Tending to our lives, to see what is really there, to not shy away from feelings, to honor what is, each and every time Is shows up.
It seems odd that we have to work like hell to get back to reality. It seems odd that we are so far from the mark. Yet we are.
Little by little our lives were stolen away by lies. Piece by piece they slipped away, until all that remained was a false sense of self. A façade a poor rendition of ourselves, a imposter, someone whose life we were living, a life but one that wasn’t ours.
How is it possible to lose sight of our own lives, our own dreams our own worlds? How is it possible our actions are more for the other than ourselves? How can we now become selfish of our time, and become self- loving?
How can we teach ourselves to no longer pretend, how do we find the self behind the pretending?
It seems that lies are the answer. Stop lying. Stop lying, even the little white lies. Stop lying when you say yes and you mean no. Stop hiding behind lies when you don’t want to feel, to be hurt, to be sad, to be this or that! Be sad if sad you feel, be happy if it is happy you feel. Stop lying to spare the others feelings. Wouldn’t it be better to feel the truth of what is now?
It is insanity at its best to think we can pretend anyway. Pretend what? That the thing we are pretending isn’t there will go away if we pretend!
How is that ever going to work, yet we do that time and time again. We pretend if we say yes this one last time They will not ask again. We pretend if we don’t see that action that eventually the he will change. We pretend to pretend to pretend that life will work itself out, if we can only hold on pretending until it does.
We can’t even stop lying to ourselves that our pretending is getting us nowhere!
Pretend or tend….to be or not to be, that is the question.
What will you pretend today? What will you tend today?
I tend reality.
