We agree to disagree. What does that mean? And can you use that same phrase or sentiment when talking about huge issues?
My sister eloquently wrote about the time that she “flipped my switch to OFF”
Yet they too don’t understand that they hold half the responsibility, that I didn’t just flip the switch unprovoked.
And it wasn’t done lightly or with out pain.
Switching the father to off was done a long time ago, and by him, it just took me 40 years to catch up. Switching the mother off happened at the same time, or maybe on and off over the years.
Switching the switches of brothers and sisters was much more painful. And sometimes I am tempted to let them come in even in their disheveled state, but know that it would not serve either of us well.
My switch from having a family to not having a family was not an easy or desired switch, but one I had to make in order to heal myself.
It is odd that I get a whole self and a fragmented family.
What we are trying to do is to get back together, but how can my sister and I join up again without unflipping the switch.
I will not flip back around, it is not that simple.
And I am not certain she wants to flip either.
To join back in the stance of “agree to disagree” seems near impossible.
How do two sisters do that? Especially one who embraces the father and the other runs in terror, who will flip?
She comments on ‘having to agree’ in order to have a relationship, and sometimes I do understand that you can get along without agreeing, but on this???
I am an open-minded person, but not that open-minded.
What she seems to be asking is for no boundaries on my part.
This saga will continue.
I am standing in total befuddlement as to how to mend this broken fence.
I stand in awe that she is willing to try.
