It is interesting to me that when you see someone in denial you automatically think that they just need to see reality.
What is a much deeper problem is the ways in which they have lived to ‘not see reality’.
And it is from there that you begin.
You don’t need to see what is in reality; you need to see what you are doing to cover up reality.
It is the cover up that needs to be explored.
The cover-ups can be dismantled by doing as Martha Beck suggested, begin telling the truth no matter what.
Instead of ‘hiding’ the fact that your eating is out of control, face the fact that it is. Name it to claim it, is a term Dr. Phil has used.
As I explored the affects that sweets had on my body, and how I overindulged them, and how they left me empty of the very thing I thought I was getting, love, I knew I was on to something.
I loved sweet treats. I felt good eating them, yet the final out come was not love or good. I had an overweight body that was sluggish and one that I didn’t like.
My life style of indulging in sweets and looking for opportunities to ‘treat’ myself, and them giving me something wonderful, really gave me the opposite.
Denial is not recognizing what the affects of ‘treating’ your self is actually doing.
You somehow just have a thirst for sweets, and feel you deserve the treat, but never look at the actual almost scientific reading of the outcome.
Denial is a twisting rope that never allows you to see all sides at once. You can either see the thirst or the bloated body….
Once I decide to stay awake for both parts, to watch the sweets going in and I didn’t tell myself a limit, I ate as many as I could, but I also had to monitor myself during and after.
Denial seems be cured by being truthful on all sides, there is no side that will slip away.
It is refreshing to be honest, to expose the secrets of understanding how you operate and why, it allows you to be free of the unexplored agendas that you have somehow overlooked.
Once I understood that the sweets didn’t really bring me good feelings, I was able to sit with what they really were. What they were comprised of and what they really did to the body.
Denial is the doorway that will lead you to full awareness of self.
