We would rather be ruined than changed;
We would rather die in our dread
Than climb the cross of the moment
And let our illusions die.
~W.H. Auden
What is so unreal is that we believe we can stop change that it is up to us to keep things the same, and it is viewed worthy if we remain unchanged.
Not only unchanged, but that if you change it is somehow seen as bad, wrong or that you succumbed to a new circumstance, instead of standing hard against change.
I have come to see that change happens often and mostly for my benefit, and the more I get used to letting go of rigid beliefs about my life and how it is supposed to flow, I am much more relaxed and willing to bend with the next thing that changes.
Our bodies change, the days change, the seasons change, our roles change, our attitudes change, our energies change, our feelings change, our world simply doesn’t stop changing.
I think we can accept change as long as it goes according to our vision of our futures, but as soon as it changes and creates a kink in our plans, we then stand strong against that change.
Standing against change feels stronger, yet it is actually a weakened state. The strongest is to surrender and accept with grace whatever is happening, for it is happening.
Accepting what is, as Byron Katie says…is really loving what is, and if you are not accepting it, you are fighting with reality and you only lose, but 100% of the time.
I think we think we are good at navigating the changes in our lives, until the unthinkable happens, when we are forced to look upon something that certainly goes against our dreams, or our plans, and then see how you accept change?
I have found that it is in accepting the most difficult things that we truly see ourselves; see where we truly are, how we are and how we are really living.
Are we living in reality or in a dream about reality?
Are we flowing with the Universe and living in a love hate relationship with it?
Loving the Universe when our plans are going according to plan, and despising that same God, when things fall through?
It has taken lots of disappointments, lots of changes, and lots of moments of utter disbelief to finally see the gifts in all the changes that have happened in my life.
I was forced to look for gifts among the piles of changes and in doing so always found the thread that lead me to understanding the change.
In seeing a bigger picture or seeing that which I failed to acknowledge, it was my perspective of change that was needed.
Instead of sitting in the land of ‘expecting no change’, I now live knowing all life changes…I am comfortable with change, and if not, I know that it is my mind that has to be changed, not reality.
Reality changes whether we agree or disagree…it is up to you how long it takes.
I have found the quicker I change my mind, the more peaceful I am.
Byron Katie says there are three little words that cause suffering…should, could and would.
And there are three words that bring peace, Loving what is...
