It is New Year’s Eve, the day we all sit down and look at the balance sheets of life, pour over our faults and choose one or two that we feel must go, and then declare to everyone we will no longer do those things.
How many of us take the time to really sit with the affect, the trouble spot and see where it came from, why it was formed?
What we call bad habits are usually coverings over some pain.
They are the lids that keep us from feeling the feelings too severe to feel.
Usually what happens is we just exchange habits, we seldom delve deeply into what lays beneath, to dive below and feel the pain.
As I approach this New Year, instead of making resolutions to get rid of bad habits, I want to explore beneath the habits.
The definition of resolution is the process of resolving something.
The act of answering, solving…
Perhaps if we looked at the coming year as the year of the answers, we will look at each day differently; we look to be enlightened about our behaviors, instead of running from them.
Vowing that we will sit down in the middle of our habit and sort through it looking for answers.
It is my belief that beneath the habit lays our true self.
My resolution is to resolve who I am.