While tossing around in my head conversations about the differences between going into the Light and heading into the Darkness boggle my mind.
How it is that a person loses direction, how do their maps get turned upside down, how instead of growing brighter they can actually become very dark and NOT even know it or maybe more true, is not know how to stop it.
That their life blood is drained and they are actively involved in the letting go and letting it drip out, drip by drip, bit by bit.
Their vital life energy leaves and they don’t even know it.
The passions die, the love changes, inside of them has been an energy transplant and they are totally unaware.
This is very scary to me and yet very much understandable.
For if a perpetrator or abuser does his job well, you will not even feel your self leave, his sweet words and wonderful attention dances before your eyes, and like a magician, he switches your energy to his.
Once the switch has been made, you have to work like Hell to bring back your bright energy, your innocence, your passions, good energy, self worth, self esteem, love.
I see my daughter now as one who is lost in the sea of darkness inside of her, and she doesn’t even know who is the bad man who stole this, who came in and courted her while draining all that was good from her.
If after the first time you do not tell, you believe you are now his equal, and his lure and charm hard to resist, his needing you a drug that keeps you dumping more and more good into.
I am not certain, but feel that only abuse does this.
That you come in as Light and can have it stolen away…
The little boy with Oprah who was overly sensitive to the darkness, knew that Darkness FEEDS off of the Light.
This sounded weird to me, but it literally swallows whole, kindness, love, compassion, caring, it has a voracious appetite.
Darkness doesn’t see who you are, just your good energy that it needs to survive.
I had to stop feeding the monster, to stop giving up my life for its happiness, its peace and its joy.
The Light energies try feeding the monster to make it brighter, to make it happier; to make it more loving, and all it does is suck you dry.
That little boy also said that the dark energies can come to you as Father, brother, sister, friend, that it isn’t some monster.
Dr. Jill Bolte-Taylor also suggests that we are responsible for the energies we bring into a room.
I believe that abused people abuse people, that hurt people hurt people.
What seems we need is to heal our own pain, to be the one, to be the caretaker of our own energies, to stop blaming others for how we feel, and to harness our own Light.
As well as being responsible for another’s happiness, peace, love or joy.
If we can separate ourselves and not be sucking the life blood from each other, and instead be Light keepers within ourselves, the world would be a much brighter place.
My daughter seems to have allowed another to extinguish her Light and what I want most is for her to be her own Light keeper.
To hold it dear.
Yet, maybe you have to lose something before you can feel its worth.