The comment on the previous blog has me pondering the dance of friendship and even human interactions.
There seems to be missing the attaching and detaching, the ebbing and flowing, the going along and then separating....at least what I have experienced mostly, is a forcing to remain together at times, when it would have been more honest to say, I need space, I need time to think, I need silence in order to process what I truly feel or need to grow here.
Somehow, especially in my family, I am seen as being difficult for standing out and not participating, when I truly feel that my feelings would be fake if I did so.
Why can't we ask for space and let it be honored and even be prepared for the relationship to die?
Why is it that once we meet and engage, that we then feel we must stay connected...that it would 'hurt' the other to out grow them and move on....
I just wonder if there are different natures of friendships and friends, and that some people hold on to the same friends their whole lives, while others seem to have sets of them....and they keep changing as we change.
I am not sure there is a 'right' way to be a friend, but perhaps there is a truthful way...and the truthful way is often times acted out but seldom is it ever openly discussed...Again, in my experience.
Maybe there are friends for different occasions and different levels and for our souls as well as for our personalities etc. And all that any of us can do is offer our true self to each interaction.
People and human interactions are very intriguing to me, and I believe that the more you learn about yourself, the more you see in others.
Maybe I have been given many different scenarios for me to become more authentic, for me to find pieces of me that I had given away or had allowed others to carry of me.
I just find it so fascinating how we interact with others...and I can see much more clearly how the abused act in comparison to those who haven't been.
How often times the confusion distorts the person so we can't ever get to know the real one...or we get glimpses and then it is washed over with defense.
Perhaps there is human nature and then inhumane nature...and that could be the over view of the two types of birds I see.
It is the inhuman nature that is vastly intriguing to me, for it seems the harder they try and cover up their truths, the more inhumane they become.
It leads me to wonder what is the natural human nature?
Is there even such a deal? Is it possible to return to our holistic nature?
I somehow believed it was wrong or that I would be viewed as less by openly stating how unnatural I was. Yet what freedom I found when I did.
I came out of the closet of being 'normal' and embraced how backwards I was...which has ironically set me on the path to normal, for me.
My normal is the land we all should live on. Each of us return to our own natural holistic life. Where we are steered by our feelings and our truths...flying together but under our own inner guidance, where there is no One Normal, but an individual normal.
It seems then we could all say what it is we need to say. Fly with folks for awhile and then fly away. It would be a much more free way to live...
Where we would all be birds of the same feather, free birds.
(Thanks Carol for going deeper....)
