"Being Loyal to dysfunction, is a sign of abuse....and when you can speak of it, tell your truth, you begin to function again." This is what I heard on Sirius radio.
What I had not considered is what does dysfunctional mean. How when we get hurt we tell others about our injury, yet when it comes to abuse we remain mute.
It's being mute that is dysfunctional. We don't talk about being hurt, being betrayed, being afraid, etc, we go mute, not functioning.
Being silent about being hurt, is actually what dysfunction looks like. I didn't know to break it down that simply.
We become loyal to being silent....
I also thought of how we the victims are doubted and feel the only 'proof' lies within us, that many don't believe us, for the scars are all inside, there is no bloddy arm to show...our battle scars are broken trust, love shattered, and innocence gone. How can you see that?
What I just thought of is how many will eagerly believe that a sin can disappear with the words spoken, "believe them all forgiven..." yet when we are asking them to believe in our abuse, they want proof.
What is the proof that your sins are gone? Did you seem them disappear? And yet you are so cock sure of this....without proof.
How can a sin disappear? Yet when it comes to a victim coming forth with stories of abuse, you want proof.
This seems so weird, how you will eagerly believe on thing disappearing and yet we are asking you to see a person differently and you will refuse.
Being loyal to abuse you fail to believe us.
Being loyal to disappearing sinful acts....you believe.
I can see how you would believe a criminal sin of rape disappearing so that person isn't a pedophile. But yet a child's innocence disappears and you won't believe it.
I would question the proof of disappearing sins. In my experience they don't disappear, they just are not believed.
