Last night I had my second class of Volunteer Training at Dial Help. We went over different types of individuals who are part of the human population that have been labeled "different" and seem to be chosen unconsciously by the majority to be targeted, due to not being 'normal'.
Like there is the template of perfect and if you don't fit into the size, shape and color, then you are rejected.
This is the Perfect shape we all believe is there, but it isn't who we are.
Some of us feel 'closer' to the model than others, but it seems that most folks are not allowed to be themselves, that they are expected to change to fit. Fit into a slot that allows society to feel better...maybe even look better.
This image society holds up...and we are all to contort ourselves to match. Failing to do so, means you are the failure. Not society.
It really sat with me how backwards this all is. Where the image of what you must be, overrides who you are.
Imagine a society that didn't want anything from you, but you. Where there is no mark to hit, no hole to fit into, but rather being different is being normal.
I just felt how telling it is, about individuals that work so feverishly to be 'normal' and 'perfect' and how much lying this must entail. How much effort it takes to pretend to be normal, to feel perfect, in order to slide under the marker called Perfectly Normal.
This means reaching for a target, instead of Being you.
Being you is not acceptable...or good enough. We are taught to behave for society, but not behave as ourselves, or to live our truth, but to live how society deems it to be.
Imagine... Being you is not enough. You have to pretend to be something better than that. How is that possible? What does this do to you inside, to hide yourself...and pretend otherwise?
When perfectly normal is considered normal, then if anything out of the ordinary happens, you must hide it. Push it aside and away OR you will be pushed aside and away.
Real life is not allowed.
Normal Society only accept you if you pretend to be that which you are not.
There is no way the Majority of Society is normal...they are just pretending they are.
If the majority would stand in their imperfections, there would be no perfection to reach. Normal then would be imperfect.
And in an imperfect world, all individuals would be perfect...accepted for being truthful and not discarded because of it.
Discarding perfectly normal, would free us all to be. What I feel is the biggest Disease, is that we have moved that far from our own truths. We did this to please an image, a church, a family...
That is the price we pay for not walking our truth.
In the FALC, there was no room for being you. There was an image to aspire to, and all good christians worked to reach it. Conformity was applauded. We all had to look and act the same. Control happened when we acquiesced. It mattered not at what cost to the individual. The image of the FALC came first. Same as with families...within the church. There is no room for imperfections in their perfect image. Controlling the image, they control you. If you don't measure up to the image, out you go.
What is so tragic, is that those who dare walk their truth, are seen as anomalies...instead of the perfect human being, being themselves.
I have lived both ways now...and noncomforming for society feels better within me. It was so hard to live trying to measure up to a moving target. Perfect was never reachable, until I decided to just be Me.
"I M Perfect, and it is impossible not to be."
