What hope the Sandusky's conviction has for victims of childhood sexual abuse. It shows that there is no organization that is too big to hide a pedophile, that eventually it will come out in the wash. Imagine 48 counts...and 45 guilty verdicts.
This gives me great hope for the children in the FALC. That one day their sexual abusers will have the light of the world shining upon them. All it takes is for one to step forth, it lends courage for others to join, there truly is strength in numbers.
I can't imagine sitting in that jury box hearing story upon story...some boys were abused 100 times.
What makes this trial even more significant, is that it is boys. The courage it takes to be a man and speak of acts done to you as a child is extremely hard, let alone against an organization that is male dominated...a football team. They are heros that came forth and use their lives to stop this man...
It just fills me with hope that there are no organizations out there who are immune.
Of course the organization that I want to see investigated is the church. To have children of the church line up and speak their truth...no matter what age they are now, it will change the tide for the next generations.
One voice starts the conversation...opens the door for others to walk through.
Tom Rosemurgy or Dial Help will listen and hear your truth.
It matters not how long ago, it matters that the silence is broken. Someone has to be first.
Silence just builds a longer lineup of victims.
Let your voice be the first. Dare to step forth and tell someone. Dare to move where in the past you didn't. It doesn't matter when you moved, but that you moved. You didn't stay frozen forever, you will begin to take your life back from abuse when you tell someone.
The fear is that telling nothing will happen and no one will believe.
In your silence you can bet that nothing will change. You can't know what the road will look like, when you speak.
It will set you free...you will no longer be frozen in the land of silence and fear.
You will activate your choices when you tell.
You will stop being a victim when you speak.
Being a victim is a person without a choice.
The perpetrators want you to remain silent and frozen...it allows them to continue to lure and play sexual games with children.
When you can activate yourself out of the frozen fear, children will have a chance.
It is like an insane game that we use to do in childhood, where if you were tagged by one team, you would have to freeze.
The pedophile is in power if you freeze and for as long as you freeze. When you are able to move and go against His/Her wishes, you are no longer under his spell, his control, and power. You literally get your power back when you can tell someone.
No matter the outcome, being unfrozen will start the process of going from victim to survivor and hero.
It is my greatest hope that this Sandusky trial will move others, that it shows the impossible is now possible.
Make a move, write an email, make a call, a little child who is next in line...will notice. Their lives will be affected by your call. It is never too late to be a hero in a child's life, especially if that child is you. The child within you needs you to say your truth.
Say what you need to say...Tom will listen. Even if you are shaking in fear...being fearless, is to feel the fear and terror, but do it anyway.
Trembling and fear, is showing you that it is true...your truth wants to come out. Let the courage of the men at Penn State fuel you...and know that one call can start a ball rolling in a new direction.
For years Sandusky had his way with boys....and now it is completely in a new direction. He no longer is in power. He wouldn't stop on his own. Someone has to be brave enough to speak to get the abuse to stop. Let it be you...and others will join your chorus.
In my nieces case, she spoke up and 9 other girls followed. Unlike Sandusky, the prosecutor didn't put us on the stand, didn't try my father on 10 cases, but only one. It is the act of a poor prosecutor, ironically or not, a member of the FALC. And no matter how the trial ended, the fact that we were innocent, when he was shown as a pedophile.
I am hopeful that this will trend, that more adult children will finally have their say...breaking the silence is the only way this will stop.
Break the silence and change the game for the pedophiles...your voice will start the process to freeze them out of the lives of children. They need to be stopped, and the only way is for the adult children of abuse to start speaking. Put your past to rest by speaking up.
