Learning with Dial Help has given me a wider view of the same problems. And I can see it doesn't matter who you are or what is your crisis, we all need the same things.
We all need to see our self in the truth of our life, not as we wish it were, but as it is...and we can't look at others being MY problem. They are not My problem, I am my problem.
When I see me as my problem, my healing begins.
Until then, you are just stirring the pot of drama.
Iyanla said, "You can't have a relationship without truth." And this is extremely important with the relationship with yourself. If you can't tell yourself the truth, you don't have a relationship with your self. You have lies.
Lies with your self will not lead to a better life, but rather to a life that gets further out of your control. The lies control your life.
Most are unaware of the lies they tell themselves...and the lies may even sound kind and sorta spiritual and gentle, but they are lies nonetheless.
My lies were clearly hidden in plain view. Yet the truth was no where spoken in my family. If my mother couldn't speak her truth, she taught me not to speak mine.
The truth was to be omitted from our daily lives.
We lie to be kind, to be friendlier, to be liked, but each time we lie, we add to the spin of our worlds; spinning us in the wrong direction.
I had a whole life that was spun in a complete opposite direction from the truth. A life that was far away from my feelings and emotions. I wasn't allowed to speak truthfully about what I thought or felt in my childhood home.
We are taught how to cover up our truths.
What I know from experience, is that crisis is when you can't find and accept the truth of what is...and see that you are the crisis maker.
Certainly there will be tragedies in life, accidents and deaths, that are out of our control, but even these are handled better when you can allow your self to feel what you feel, and you see yourself and the choices each situation brings for you.
The biggest crisis of all, is when you lose sight of your self...and the truth is so far away from you, that you can't even see it.
No self and No truth.
Just a life spinning out of control, without a ground to stand upon.
I woke up there.
And I used nature to ground me. To keep me in reality, while I looked at how I had allowed my life to spin so far away from me and my feelings.
I can't know what will wake you up...but, until then, there is nothing anyone can do to fix your life, to make you happier, or more at peace. If they can, it is all an illusion. For true happiness and peace, love and joy, come when you can see yourself and your truth, no matter how out of control and ugly it is.
Truth can indeed set you free.
And, God does help those who help themselves...he doesn't help those who blame others.
