I heard a line on the radio about our court systems no longer being a place to find the truth...and that really hit home.
That is scary to me. Where do we now go to have the truth validated?
And then, the thought came, "Why do we need a third party to look into our lives to see what is going on, when we know it first hand?" Or do we? Is it possible that we don't know the truth when we see it?
Who do you trust to know the truth now?
I used to trust the law and the church, but found neither was really intent on discovering the truth, both were more willing to cover it up or change it around or just let it walk away.
Are we all playing life's game of pretending the truth doesn't exist?
And how does it serve you not to know the truth?
How is your life better without the truth?
Who would you be if you fully embraced the truth?
How would your life change if you accepted full out what is?
It seems insane to me that not only the courts of the land, but many churches are participants of disregarding the truth. And even more shocking, we are all agreeing by silently going along...and actually work hard to not let the truth stand alone and naked in the light of day.
We do this not because we are intentionally going against the truth, BUT we are going for what we believed in.
We have a life we believe in and we don't want to see it wrecked.
If you believe in family, in a loving dad, you will fight like hell when the stories of abuse come in. Even if you say you get that he is an abuser, BUT you still treat him like a dad, you have participated in disregarding the truth for the overpowering need of having a dad. Of not being able to let that dream die...to become fatherless.
Who knew that the truth would have so few cheerleaders?
What was the greatest pain, wasn't the truth of abuse, but the dissolving of dad and little girl dreams of having a strong protector, of having someone who would fight like hell if someone were to even think about damaging one little hair on your head...who wants to know, you stand alone unprotected.
The acts of abuse and bodily injury are nothing compared to what we lose IF we agree with abuse.
We lose all the warm comforts of family...of being special and precious and loved.
Truth rips from us all the comforts of home...
What we hold on to tighter is this comfort....this blanket of security. We want to know that there are people out there who will protect us against evil.
What we don't want to know is that those who we placed to protect us, are evil.
We don't want to know know know, that those we have loved, trusted and believed in are willingly and knowingly using us, abusing us and treating us poorly. That they literally set up their household for evil deeds. We want to instead sit in the comforts of them being our protectors. Of them wanting the best for us...always.
This is a wide stream to cross to flop on the shore of knowing who we thought protected us actually were the same ones who betrayed our trust and abused us. Cared less of our love, of our loyalty and admiration...in fact used our very nature and abused us...Time and time again...for we refused to believe this was evil. We have been taught to bless away the sins...to honor thy mother and thy father that all may be well with thee and that thou mayest live long on thee earth. We keep doing out part and the evil knows we will not not bless each act away.
We don't need the courts in the land to show us evil, we need the courts in the land to show us where our family is a fantasy. And instead, how often do the courts and social agencies work so hard to make a family...to sit on their haunches of 'reasonable doubt'. Really? Do you really have to wonder if the father is no longer a father, when you have victims stories of abuse???
The courts work on reasonable doubt...meaning can you say without a doubt he is an abuser. Perhaps we need to ask, can you show me without a reasonable doubt where the family man is? Show me his actions. Show me where the love lies...where he has protected me, where he has treasured me etc?
The reason I see that we are all backwards with this, is that we believe in the family and will let nothing stand in its way. We don't want to embrace evil and face it full on. For when we do, we are standing without a family.
Even if the courts in the land no longer are a place to find the truth....and even if many churches will bless the truth away, each of us know in our bodies where the truth lies....what is the truth....and what our greatest fears are.
Our greatest fear is not about abuse.
Our greatest fear is there is no family. So, instead many will work harder to keep family together TO PROVE it exists.
It isn't about proving abuse is there....but rather that you have a dad. Regardless of how he acted, there were some fairly okay times. He took us hunting, he supported us, he....he....he. Yep, he was a dad. And it is unreasonable to toss it all away. I have a dad...so, then he can't be evil. And if he can't be evil, then I am worthy.
I have a dad and I am worthy....feels much better than, my father abused me and I am worthless....
Worthless in his eyes.
