This Shame being the fear of being disconnected, changes the whole game about how I will look upon abuse and how silence is the unmoveable wall of stone, that I can't seem to move....it isn't about sharing evil deeds, IT is about being popular, liked....period.
The reason 'good' people are doing nothing is much more personable than I thought, and even not ignorance or 'against their religion', the key is they don't want to be rejected, they don't want to stand out, they want to fit in.
This almost makes it more aggregeous to me...that their social and family status matters more, than doing what is right for a child in danger.
Not only does it sicken me that their popularity is the only thing they risk, while the child then is sentenced to a life of disconnection.
They are then no longer lovingly attached to their family...or reality, for the 'good' knowing adults will do any number of pretending to have a father and not a pedophile, and their excuses are all so that they can remain popular.
Imagine?
I see the ramifications of this to be so shallow for the content and severity of abuse.
As a child sees their parent's fear of making waves within the family and church...they have to disconnect in order to survive.
I had to let go of my truth to appease my mother so she could keep her tribe membership of good standing.
I can't know if you all can grasp the enormity of this....that it isn't a game of morals and values, it is a game of being popular!
It isn't just in the name of religion they are silent, it is due to their own personal 'friendships' and relationships.
I know, for I lost alot of family and friends, to stand against abuse.
