"If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way - especially shame, fear and vulnerability." Brene Brown
I loved how she explained that people want to live in love, peace and joy, and they only want to know how, and NOT discuss what gets in the way. They don't want to talk about what is uncomfortable, what they fear, what keeps them from being Happy, they just want to be happy.
The word "gets" is an interesting choice.
What has gotten us that keeps us from happiness?
What has taken us away and why?
Most want to know how to return to happiness, but not what has taken us from it in the first place.
How did you get so far from your happiness?
I lived so far from my own happiness, I didn't even know it was missing...
This isn't about what others had done, but about what I allowed to lead me away from me.
The places and moments that I left my own happiness behind.
You can't find your happiness until you are willing to see where you lost it. Where did it get to...
Each time I gave up my happiness for another's love or peace, I was making a choice to leave my own happiness. I did this so much, I wouldn't have recognized what made me happy if I came face to face with it. But, I surely knew what to do to make others happy.
I had to find out what stood in the way and what stood in the way was me.
I was the one who said yes when I felt no....and said no to things I wanted.
What stood in the way for me were all the places I allowed to get my happiness, one person, one action at a time.
I had to get my happiness back by living as Brene says, "wholeheartedly". By being at one with my heart and only doing what felt right for me. I had to gather my life back and make new choices based upon how it made me feel....and to articulate my emotions with words...to be vulnerable and to set boundaries...to give my self my voice.
So what it the path to happiness?
Is it being the perfect Buddhist?
Is it being a perfect Christian...
Or is it just being the perfect you?
