While the discussions continue about abuse, what came to me is that there are two opposing views. Two very different experiences and yet we want to paint only in one color...
I got to wondering, is this an affect from being raised in the FALC, where bad things can be changed back to good, via the forgiveness of sins, so the world really never stays bad....it is fleeting and illusive...not a hard fact.
Only the good remains seemingly steady, for if you falter, you can ask for a blessing and be returned to full goodness. The bad doesn't stick, we are like teflon when it comes to sins.
Is this why it is so hard to get people to really believe and to stick with a label of abuser? That we can really only see the good?
For some reason we are very hesitant to hold onto a negative label....like IF we refuse to see some good, we are the negative folks.
I know, that I am seen as being negative for seeing my father as a pedophile. That I washed away all his good traits, due to his 'fault' or sin. It is by far more my problem for refusing to bend him back to good...or good enough. I am not as kind, loving or sane when I hold his sins before me...
Is it easier to just see the good and overlook the evil or is it easier to acknowledge the sins and hold them accountable?
There is a really insane system going on in these churches, where there is sin, but it is only recognized to be forgiven away.
Like you see it to erase it.
What would happen if there was no forgiveness of sins? What would happen to all these actions? Where would they go and more importantly WHAT would these people look like? Say all the acts of 'sin' stayed with the person...that there was no way to separate you from your sins? Then what? Who would you be?
Would you not be truth?
Somehow, the 'forgiveness of sins' is a truth remover.
When an abuser asks for the truth to be removed, he then loses the title of abuser...but the victim has no such truth remover...she is forever feeling the truth of the abuse. There is no escaping, no wiping, no erasing, no un-ringing the bell of truth.
I will believe in the forgiveness of sins, when it magically removes all traces of abuse from the victim. When it can return innocence back to the child...making them untouched.
Just as the victim remains forever changed so do the so called loving family members who abuse the trusting children in their lives; they remain monsters.
