"You can read and intellectualize the idea of rewiring your mind all you like, but you need to set the process in motion if you want to see results."
Baron Baptiste
We can talk about changes that need to occurr and incidences that 'should' not be happening, but until we actually move in a new direction it is just air passing between our lips. Nothing happens, until we move.
I can hear stories of abuse and the churches lack of responses, or their lack of education and resources; but it is all for naught, if the people are unwilling to move in a new direction.
I believe that many believe they "think" just like me, or "believe" just like me, that they do not condone or support abusers, and their lips tell me so...but their body moves in mysterious ways.
Intuitively I knew that my footsteps would follow my mother's IF I did not walk differently. If I did not approach or face abuse...radically.
There just didn't seem to be a way to approach abuse in kind and gentle way, holding on to all relationships tied to it. I know the churches, preach forgiveness, kindness and love...and prayer. And, if it worked, there would be no abuse.
The shift that needs is on the other end of the spectrum. It isn't about loving those who hurt you, but loving yourself enough to NOT be hurt.
Churches want to maintain their ideology and sentiments and their whole package and ways of treating 'sin'...while simultaneously taking a tough stand against abuse.
I have spoken to a woman of the OALC, and she has spoken to a preacher there, and supposedly, he will speak to the Elders to see what to do about abuse.
Doesn't it seem like it is a no brainer? That a child would be able to tell you what to do. That it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that when a grown adult man rapes a child, what we all need to do.
While we are all passing air through our lips, the children fight the battle of abuse alone.
(My new fall color Lady...moving with confidence in a new direction)
