A woman mentioned she was an advocate for Love. And, that led me to wonder what am I an advocate for? What is my intention and direction; just how would I classify my advocation?
I even looked up the word "advocate" to make sure I knew its true meaning.
"To speak, plead, or argue in favor of..."
What is it that I plead for or argue in favor of?
Most, and many think I am against family...and religion and perhaps even God and forgiveness...against human kindness. It often feels like many feel my agenda is the agenda of evil; when I believe its opposite.
I would say, that I am for love, peace and joy, and have found it by leaving all that isn't.
I would say that I argue for the rights of and love of, innocent children...and adults.
It is more impacting to say what you are For, than what you are against. Being against something is relatively easy, you just shun or turn away from it. But when you are for something, you have to explore it...experience it, live it...be with it; stand for it in all things.
I am for truth. Even when it is ugly and not kind, when it has the capability of shattering my world, I am still for truth.
I am for authentic living...even when it requires me to walk away from family.
I am for real relationships...for not pretending in order to keep 'peace'.
I am for integrity...especially when it is hard to stand in it.
I advocate self-worth, self-love...individual imperfections that make you perfect.
I advocate for reality and acceptance of all things...and our free will to respond as we wish.
I advocate for freedom...and love.
I advocate for the opposite of abuse.
Power, freedom and choice.
And yet, I am seen by those, I believe, still in abusive relationships as a threat or bad or evil....and I can see why.
The most powerful tool we have against abuse is to be free and empowered. I would be a threat to what you are holding dear, if what you are holding onto is abusive.
If what you are holding onto is power over someone.
If what you are clinging to requires no new choices.
If what you need is for others NOT to change.
I love that I can fully embrace and hold, that I am an advocate for change in abusive homes...changing the victims into powerful empowered beings...from living in fear to living for Love.
I do not believe that there is ever a Love option in abusive homes...fear is the only path. And, many who have only lived in fear are afraid of love...and its new choices and voices.
I can only recognize love as being free. If you aren't free to do and say and be; it isn't love...its fear. Fear leaves you with no choice. And no choice echoes abuse.
So, I agree with the woman, I too am an advocate for Love.
I love my pictures when I was little, I was always holding hands or babies...even if I had no clue as to the environment of our home, I cared and did my best to love.
When I was a young mom, I was not always so loving...or my love wasn't love but fear. I love that person too....for she didn't know what she didn't know.
I will no longer hold hands with those who want to keep the family together no matter what, for the 'matter what' is abuse. I can't hold hands with abuse...
I can't pretend to pretend that love is there; even for family.
I am an advocate for healthy families; where children are safe.
I am now able to be an advocate for love; for I know what love is not.
