"Do what you feel in your heart is right, you will be criticized anyway." Eleanor Roosevelt
I wonder if the reason most of us don't make changes IS the fear of being criticized?
I had to look up the word "Criticize" to see if I even understood its correct meaning.
"Indicate the faults of (someone or something) in a disapproving way."
"To find fault with: criticized the decision as unrealistic."
If you could see that there will be people on both sides of the fence or issue willing to find fault; that you simply can't escape criticism.
And, if you change sides...you will be crticized by new people for doing something different.
What I hadn't considered is that no matter what, someone will be standing there disapproving of you and your choices. It is a given.
So, given that.
Do what you want and how you want.
In the end, you and you alone will stand with your choices, and be responsible for why you did or didn't do something.
Your karma is created by the choices you make and not by the silence or absence of criticism.
I know that I have been heavily criticized...when I switched sides of the abuse line.
I was criticized for doing nothing for 40 plus years...for my silence while in denial.
And, when I switched sides and spoke out...the criticism came from those whose side I left.
Eleanor is right. No matter what You will be criticized.
It will just depend upon who is doing it.
I see it rather black and white.
What is reasonable to a dysfunctional family isn't reasonable to someone who isn't in a toxic relationship. It is all relative to where you are standing and what boundaries or requirements you have or lack.
I find great comfort in there will always be voices of criticism....and it will be from the opposite side of the fence you are standing on.
I am fine being criticized for taking the road that honors my truth....
