I was asked if I had made a "Resolutions" this year and I said, "No, I didn't for this year." And, the reply was, "Everyone has something to improve." To which I responded, "I am okay today..."
This led me to look up "Resolution".
"A firm decision to do or not to do something."
"The act of solving a problem or dispute, or contentious matter."
So, "New Year's Resolutions are a firm decision to do or not to do something, to solve a problem, dispute or contentious matter."
It is the act of solving a problem....again, one that is typically an issue with our self.
I wondered if we would all be further ahead to work on acceptance?
What if we didn't see a problem?
It appears to me that the real dispute is with who we are today and 'wishing' we were something else.
Not being pleased with ourselves in this moment of time.
What if we made a firm decision to see no problems?
Aren't most of our problems again NOT accepting what is?
Resolutions are to fix problems...
Would it not be better, to not see ourselves, (as we are today), as a problem?
Feeling we are a problem isn't conducive to self-love.
I looked up "Improvement"
"The action of improving or being improved...there's still room for improvement"
"A thing that makes something better or is better than something else."
How can we be better than we are in this moment of time?
Again, I see the lack of acceptance to who we are today...of wanting to be different.
How can I improve who I am right now?
As I sit here.
I felt, that IF I were to do the resolution deal, I would make a firm decision to be me...always.
Me as I am right now.
Me as I feel now and when that feeling changes, be that.
Me sitting...sewing, reading, cooking, working.
Always being with the me doing what the Me is doing and not wishing or hoping I was somewhere else different than where I am.
And accept being me in this size and not sentencing me to unhappiness UNTIL I am a different size, much smaller than I am. What if today and this year I accept me as me no matter my size and not call myself a problem...and be happy.
Isn't it Happy New Year....not problem new year!
We are a culture that disowns and neglects the reality of our lives and keeps our happiness at bay until we reach another size or until we are fit etc.
It would be my assumption that happy people would be more inclined to move, enjoy life, do daring things, try new things etc.
Unhappy crabby people will isolate more and retreat away from fun adventures.
I say stop waiting for something to change and accept you as you are right now.
Not only accept, but love her/him.
Imagine what you would do with the one you Love?
Where will you take yourself and what will you do?
It will be the happiest year ever if you can find complete and utter acceptance of who you right now, without one inch of improvements.
I went to look for a picture of me, one that I hadn't put on here recently and seen this. Here I am after being on a film called "Call Me Mental".
And, I am smiling.
I'm happy.
I am in complete and utter acceptance of my whole self...even with what some would call my dark, my "problem"...my abuse and its affects. I don't see nothing wrong.
I see no problem.
None.
This is me....all of me.
I am happy to be Me.
So, for resolutions...perhaps mine will be to find no problems with me.
