more from Chapter 12 - "The Rescued Soul" by Christina Enevoldsen
"Owning My Power"
"I've realized a little at a time over many years that I am capable of improving my own life in big and small ways. As a childhood victim, one of my only powers was complaining. As I've transitioned into viewing myself as an empowered adult, I've learned to listen to my thoughts. I've become alert to grumbling or whiny expressions that are meant to gain me sympathy - as though I'm completely at someone else's mercy." Christina
What I didn't know, is that complaining is to be disempowered; to believe that someone else holds your happiness/joy/love etc.
And, that as a child, that was our only power against the bigger adults...to complain, in hopes they would treat us better.
Very interesting to note.
Instead of complaining, an empowered adult has the power to change things in their lives.
Christina gave this example...
"When I was still learning to own my power, I planned to complain to my husband that he never spent time with me, but I stopped myself. That sounded like an accusation, not the invitation that I intended. I was blaming him and placing all the responsibility for our relationship on him, as though I was powerless. In the past, whining didn't accomplish anything other than drawing us further apart, which was the opposite affect I wanted."
"This time, as an empowered person, I said to my husband, "We haven't spent much time together lately and I miss you. Are you free for dinner on Thursday?" I took responsibility for my feelings and my relationship and I had a date." Christina
The difference between whining and complaining and then being empowered for how we feel, plus carrying our part of the relationship...is vast.
Living life as an empowered adult is the answer and healing from a childhood of being a victim of abuse...in all its forms.
When you complain; you give away your power.
