"Honesty is confrontational" Aziz Ansari
I hadn't thought of honesty confronting anyone; but of course that is why it is seldom spoken.
It has me thinking about all my own honesty and its costs...and the courage it takes to be honest.
You not only have to be willing to be in a confrontational situation...But, you also have to know where you stand and why.
Honesty isn't so much about the other person but it does require you to know your own values and morals and be willing to stand for them.
Honesty is typically spoken to someone or displayed by your actions.
It is to put your Self out there.
Becoming a target for confrontation.
Being honest was a muscle I had to develop. It grew each time I stood against someone and didn't capitulate toward their line of reasoning.
I stood my ground and my truth; was honest with myself and others...and my self-worth grew.
Today, while doing yoga, in my painful areas, I sometimes rub and ask..."what is your message?" What came to me today, is "There's nothing to forgive."
I took that in.
I felt the release of knowing..."Forgiveness" wasn't my job.
I don't have to be sorry for my honesty.....NOR, do I have to forgive, to make them feel better.
My life is my honesty.
My responsibility.
It is who I am.
I am willing to face confrontations to be Me.
The silence of many or perhaps the distance between us....I believe, is the lack of knowing their own honesty.
It doesn't matter where you go...in the end; all you have is your own honesty. Until you have to defend it, you may not even know who you are.
In order to be honest, you have to become very comfortable with confrontations.
