I have been listening to Jewel's book, "Never Broken" and her life story is quite amazing.
She understands, that you can't see reality UNLESS you have clear eyes. I love this.
It isn't reality that changes and transforms; but our vision, or rather our minds.
Our needs color what we want to see and what we will discard.
Her relationship with her mother, ended like mine.
She too had a distorted view of her mother for many years and it wasn't until the mask fell that she was able to see see what was really beneath.
Once you see, you can't un-see.
I also loved how she described herself in the terms "Other" and "Self".
Other was her programmed mind.
And, she could tell the thoughts/beliefs were from other by the way they felt in her body.
This too, is how I felt my way forward.
I called mine "The Mental Lady".
Often, her voice sounded like my mothers. Or, mostly.
My inner soul's knowing and thoughts, felt much safer, softer, kinder, and loving towards me. While this soul voice, or what I would call My Little Girl, often upset others for her actions were not pleasing to them.
At 46 years of age, I finally began to live for me.
I don't know Jewel's songs.
But, I know the music of her soul.
