I created a quilt yesterday, of ladies in a circle - a women's group. Which has led me to wonder about why we gather in clumps?
Synonyms to the word group are "category, class, classification, grouping, set, lot, bunch, bracket, type, sort, variety, kind, species, genus, breed."
And, the old adage, "birds of a feather flock together" also comes to mind.
As I dialogued with a sister of long ago, there seemed to be two distinct sides or I guess groups.
One set has boundaries and the other does not.
Conditions within relationships and then unconditional.
Both believe in their love.
I then wondered about the energies of groups and what groups offer the individual?
And, further, what kinds of groups I am now included in, and what sorts I have left, because my inner rules (boundaries) have changed.
I am very suspect of individuals who have not changed groups in their lifetime. Can you grow and evolve and learn clumped in the same groups you were born into?
I wonder if there are two kinds of groups; one where the individual IS made to outgrow its boundaries and the other that holds to contain them?
Are there groups that grow and evolve together and then groups that need nothing to change?
Can there be a group of individuals whose strength is their diversity?
I have been part of groups where the sameness was its strength, where blindness was needed, groups where my self and different opinion wasn't welcomed.
Coming from two very dysfunctional groups; family and religion, I am discerning who I am lumped together with. Who I join and for what reasons.
My old self needed like minded people who didn't have a gauge on themselves and reality. It fit my denial.
The new me, feels the best with people who see not only themselves but the facts in their lives. Who strive for authenticity and being themselves.
We gather in circles for all types of reasons.
My class of ladies are badasses. Rebels with courage. Who dare to do what's right even when it isn't popular. They let love go when it turns to abuse. Those who love themselves enough to stand alone. Who have boundaries full of respect and self-kindness. Those who have felt deep darkness, pain, loss and who have decide to go on.
A circle of semi-colon ladies!
Ladies who have decide, that no matter what life has thrown at them, they deal, heal and gather their new found strengths and walk on.
To love harder, deeper and with more courage.
Being free, spirited, with grace.
Women who take responsibility for their choices and vow to chose differently the next time around. Who learn the tough lessons by living from the inside out.
Badass women who are strong of self, and gather to cheer each other on as each faces a new life challenge.
Each of us showing courage, strength when we stumble; we make it part of the dance!
A circle of badass women!
Doing what we do!
We chose not the easy path but the one that grows our soul!
I had to look up "Badass".
"a tough, uncompromising, or intimidating person."
Hmmm, I guess when it comes to defending our self, respect, love and empowerment.
I can be that.
Thats a woman I can cheer!
Badass Circle.
