In listening to the different sides, opinions and views, it strikes me how it often seems impossible for the other side to see what you see; to be heard or understood. It almost seems like we are experiencing life it two drastically different realities.
Is there more than one reality?
This mad dance is so reminiscent of my dialogues between myself and my family.
Where it almost seems that there is a blindness to wrong doings.
A man's moral character is held up regardless of his actions.
And, that those of us pointing out the shortcomings are the 'bad' ones.
Finding the ground zero in these conversations feels like insanity, where we are left defending ourselves when we have done nothing wrong.
The women's march for women's rights, are wrong and not that our country has been okay with the less than equal rights.
Even that some don't feel its injustice, makes it less unequal.
That it can only be unequal IF ALL women feel it is so.
This goes back to the dysfunctional family, where a family is okay, unless the majority call it abusive.
I don't have answers for this.
I just find it hurts my head trying to find the words or language to speak to those who see reality so differently.
What I am finding it isn't even about morals or values, but that the facts are set aside as if they don't matter.
If you don't bring in and hold tightly to the facts, then you can actually have a life you want, not one that is there.
How can you have a conversation where someone lets truth be a fact that can be taken in or released based upon its potential to change a life?
How easy it is to be less resentful, if you can release a fact.
Kinda like forgiving a sin in the old church's way of forgiveness. To live as if that action never happened. Forgive and forget - to keep sweet.
It almost feels that if one side doesn't see the victims, then there is no inequality...or visa versa.
Pretending or acting like there is a equal and balance in our humanity, that race and gender are not an issue, that there isn't a dominating white male overtone, IT will not be so.
Do we need people to believe it to make it so?
Are we more a belief based culture than fact/truth based?
I know there women who truly believe that they have free will with their bodies, while having none.
They believe it, regardless of the facts and rules of their religion.
They are free in mind only.
The facts are, they do not own their bodies.
They don't even see who does own them.
I know this, because I was one of them.
I had no clue that the church owned my body.
It actually owned my mind, in a way that I wasn't even aware of that I wasn't free, let alone equal to any male.
How can you have a cognitive conversation about freedom and equality with someone who is in bondage and being treated less than, AND they don't know it...
It is like a prisoner talking from behind the bars of how there are no jails in the land.
This blows my mind and interests me immensely.
The land is seen from two minds.
Or, perhaps the mental mind and the awareness of one who resides in reality.