IMPERFECT Lady

Our Friendship

A friend of mine passed away - I don't recall how many years we've known each other - over two decades or more. We bonded over our love of art, fabric, thread and talking about dysfunction and women's issues.  

She was older than me - a few decades or more.

Way more sophisticated and wise to the wonders of the world.  

Our pasts were so different - and maybe the times in which we were born, and our families.

Her view of the world was large and experienced. Mine was small and less so.

She carried lots of sorrow with her as she lived and loved.

 

We were a pair of opposites.

Learning from each other.

Working through our life lessons.

Sharing our unique experiences.

 

She was a cheerleader of my art and one that I respected for she was beyond talented with a needle and thread. Intricate detailed and precise - with wild abandon and an imagination that stretched out far. I guess I was her cheerleader too.

 

She lived her Dash...

 

I was only aware of her last few decades - much of her life had been lived by the time I met her.  In the later years we saw each other more - the more housebound she became.  We texted and shared the things we made and our lives.

She didn't like clutter or holding on to anything she no longer wanted or used. I became her hand-me-down girl.  When she gave me her last pile of treasures, I asked if her creative spirit was attached, she smiled and said "of course".  She was my fairy godmother of sewing supplies and her treasures are now sprinkled into mine.

She liked my texts, of nature and art and even my grandchildren. I was passing to her parts of life that seemed out of reach for her.

 

I asked her about if she slept lots now, and she said no - I am spending my time remembering.

 

I then sent her a text about all that I remember of her.  Her last text back to me was -

Thank you.

 

My phone lost a contact - a resource and voice I had come to love.

 

The world will be different without you.

They say if you want to be near someone you lost- to do what they love.

She and her spirit will continue to be with me when I create

 

May your spirit now fly - to horizons beyond your imagination.

Rest in peace was never for you - you wanted to be free and limitless - feeling alive and vital.  

 

I will carry you in my heart and feel the absence of where you used to be.

 

I am grateful for our friendship.

 

 

 

 

 

God's Free Will

Women's rights are a tricky subject - because what is actually being talked about IS not her by herself.  She is unable to find herself pregnant without a man. She can't make a baby on her own - the man carries a crucial piece AND this is not talked about.

 

His rights are never in question or limited.

 

A woman is left with the evidence that a man planted a child.

 

And she alone is judged and crucified for what she decides to do.

 

There is also a limited version of abortion - that is willfully used primarily as birth control - and that it isn't a heartbreaking decision that is for health reasons of a child or the mother.

 

Mostly there needs to be a wider version of the discussion and a more open view on what is going on.

 

Women are only one part of the equation - yet carry full blame.

Limiting women - on the other side of baby making - seems like shutting the door after the horses left the barn. Why not stop the baby making process at the gate.  Limit men from having kids until they can prove the kids are wanted and can be supported.

Limit the surgery decisions to the doctor and the carrier of the baby.

Leave the church and state out of it.

 

It seems unfair to reduce the limits of women and not look upon the man - at all.

What would be a fair discussion to have about a pregnancy - and its continuation - or even conception?

 

There are two people involved and only one is being addressed.

What is the saying - instead of pulling people out of the river - it is better to go up river and see how they are getting there.

 

What doesn't seem to be the right answer is to take away the woman's right to her own body - 

 

Also, what else has been bugging me, is that so many of the ultra religious women are voting to take away rights - when they themselves have little ownership of their own bodies.

 

They are not able to limit the amount of children they have.

They are not free with their own bodies and yet they feel they can limit others.

 

It seems that only those who are free to choose, should be voting.

 

What I have learned - in my experience - the freer I became, the wider my sense of accepting and allowing others to live their lives freely.

I  would not want others telling me what is right or wrong in my life - and I am not sure what is right or wrong in your life. 

 

What is right for me - doesn't necessarily mean it is right for you.

If God gave us free will - why are some feeling like it is theirs to control?

 

I am pretty sure it is a sign of dysfunction to control others. 

A society that has equal rights and freedoms is a healthy society - and/or religion or relationship of any kind.

 

There are three kinds of rights. "These are Natural rights, Moral rights & Legal rights. Legal rights can be defining in three categories. These are, Fundamental rights, Political rights & Social or civil rights.

 

What seems to be happening is the 'moral' rights of some are creating negative legal rights, that infringe upon the natural rights of women.

 

Those who can justify this - better know - that you too are at risk of having your natural rights taken away - with the right people in power.  

 

In the land of the free - it is not a positive to reduce someone's freedom.

 

Morals are what you believe to be right or wrong -

And these are personal and I don't feel should be imposed upon others.

 

Values - a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life. "they internalize their parents' rules and values"

 

Free Will - Free will is the ability to make choices independently and without outside influence. It's linked to concepts like moral responsibility, praise, and culpability, which only apply to actions that are freely chosen. 

 

 

I guess in the land of the free - I would like to honor God's free will.

 

And He gave us free will—the ability to think, reason and make our own choice.

 

It would seem those who are supportive of religion and God, would want at the very least to give each of us God's Free Will.

 

 

 

 

Peace on Earth

We Vote today - a choice we will have to make - we vote each time there is a decision in our lives, our choices reflect our values and our morals.

Our vote typically aligns with our energy.

The candidate and their vision of the future - matches our own.

 

I am not certain any political ad or speech will sway us one way or the other.

Who we are - is how we vote.

 

We vote for what feels familiar or probably what is the popular vote among our family and friends.

 

We don't typically want to stand out and be different.

 

Trying to sway someone to vote differently - is to try and change their inner code - which seems almost unshakable.  However, if your own life has been upended, your inner sense of the world will change and you will renegotiate your values and morals.

And with new morals and values, your vote will change.

 

While voting on the president is a big deal, all of our decisions are big deals.  Each choice we make or don't make, will affect our individual relationships - with ourselves and those around us.

 

What we stand for or sit down with- matters.  

The accumulation of our votes leans forward thinking or standing still or trying to move backwards. The universe though I believe is forward evolution - albeit slow at times.

 

And it seems that some are okay taking away rights and others are not.  

If you are born and raised in a community that has limited your rights, it feels right.

Some have been limited their whole lives - living in a body that they didn't have the right over.

 

Hear that.  

They do not own their own body.

 

I know this - I lived for 46 years with a body that wasn't mine.

I wasn't able to do with it - as I wanted; but what the church felt was right or wrong.

I was nowhere to be found.

 

I understand when so many women step into the voting booth - how they will not be free.

Perhaps because I know the difference - I have a choice.  Others do not.

 

I didn't even know know - that I was not free. I only knew how to be a good person within the church and follow the rules.  I didn't look deeply at the rules or what they meant or how I felt or what their impact had on me - let alone how these rules excluded others.

 

It was just a sin to have total freedom with my body.

One of the bigger choices that is being voted on is women's rights.

And it is complicated.

Not a simple or easy conclusion.

But, oddly it would be IF it was about the Man.

 

Being a country of freedoms - some are limited by their religious rules. It will be foreign to vote for freedom of self. 

 

At the end of the day - when the votes are tallied, we will have a better understanding on how the majority feel and whose rights are being supported.  

Will humanity continue to grow and expand and become more aware and balanced or will we spiral backwards to limitations.  

While voting for the president is a big decisions, there are many real decisions in our own lives that matter in how we add to the wellness of humanity.  

We vote according to our limits - not the broad space of potentials.

 

How we respond to the election when it is all said and done and how we live with the candidate that is not our choice - will also be a choice.  

Our challenge in life is to live and be the best you can be within the systems that govern our country and community. The best way to govern is to lead with freedom.

 

In a perfect world, there would be peace on earth.